The Not So Lovely World Of Dating. Thumbs Way Down!

Dating is a cold game, and you would think it would get easier as you get older….SIKE..

Yeah, okay, I guess

I have been single for some time now. My famous line in the past was “I like being single. I’m happy I don’t have to answer to anyone”. Well I’m damn near 30 years old and my views and opinions have shifted; I’m thinking differently, some would say clearer. Is it wrong of me to ask for a MAN who knows what his priorities are in life, is a go-getter, and is NOT caught up in all the superficial things in life? I mean damn, do these type of men even exist anymore or are they extinct? I have questions that need to be answered.

Yes, I must admit, I do have a brick wall up and I am not the easiest person to get to know. I have trust issues and I’m not the only woman in the world that does (men are included too). Would I ever hold the next man accountable for what the last person did to me? No. Will I have on my suit of armor when the next person comes too close to my heart? Yes, it would only be human nature for me to do so.

The whole cat and mouse game that usually comes with dating is not for me. The few little meaningless relationships I have been in, the guy felt that I never put my all in to it, and they were damn skippy about that one. Why would I put my all in to someone when he is not giving me the attention I am seeking from him? Seriously. What you put in is what I put out, (at least in relationships) simple as that. If your not calling me, well I’m damn sure not calling you. If your short with me (i.e not having much to say) well I guarantee you I’m gonna be short with you. Its an easy science to this sh*t, nothing complicated.

Some may think that my way of looking at the situation is petty, but it is what is. When I begin dating a guy I come in to the situation with a open mind and just a little guarded. I make sure I give the person a chance to show what they are about and are they serious about getting to know me. It’s their choice to want to either A, f*ck up that chance or B, take the chance and see where things go.

Okay I’m done talking about this dating topic. Hopefully the dating gods will be a little nicer to me in the future because this sh*t is for the birds

Chris Brown “No Bullsh*t” Video….DAMN!!!

As I was doing my regular visit to Miss Jia’s entertainment blog (the best entertainment blog in my opinion), I came across Chris Brown’s new video “No Bullshit”, and all I can say is “well damn”.

Never in a million years have I looked at Chris Brown as “fine” or “sexy”. In my mind he was the little boy that my nieces loved, and my nephews tried to dance like. But sh*t, my perception of him has totally changed, I’m damn near ready to fight these lil groupies for a piece of that Chris Brown pie (mmm mm mmm).

I’m looking forward to seeing Chris Brown making a big comeback. Yeah, he made a f*cked up decision by putting his hands on Rhi Rhi, but what he did has nothing to do with his talent. It’s already bad enough that the entertainment industry lacks talented people, so to try to eliminate someone that has undeniable talent would be a big mistake.

Sh*t, leave Chris Brown alone and let him do what he does best.

[I have watched this about 7 times. I really love the song and video, it’s HOT! If someone said to me “don’t you be on that bullshit”…they can automatically get the panties from me..hands down. I’m joking, but at the same time I’m being serious, It’s been a long time. *shrugs shoulders*…don’t judge me]

OMG….AM I A “COUGAR”?

I have a question to my handful of readers.
What does the age difference have to be in order for a woman to be considered a “cougar”? The reason why I ask this is because I think I may be entering in to “cougar” territory.

Over the last couple of months, I have noticed a pattern, and that pattern is majority of the guys I have gone out with have been younger than me.

Don’t go thinking I’m dating these little 18 year olds, because that is not the case. The age difference is usually between 5-6 years, and honestly, they are all very mature.

I have dated people that were about 4-7 years older than me (I’m 28) that didn’t even have the mental capacity of 20 a year old (damn that is bad).

Allow me to make something clear; I’m not a “sugar mama”. Nah boo, I don’t pass out money for the company of a young male tenderoni..LOL! Everything is done 50/50 just like any other friendship/relationship.

Sh*t, if I’m a “cougar”, oh well, “I’ll Bee Dat” (Redman voice).

[THIS IS MY “COUGAR” ANTHEM….AWWWWWW R.I.P AALIYAH]

Neighbors Know My Name….His Version

What the f*ckery?!

I won’t go in on this guy like I really want to, for the simple fact he put his heart in to singing this song.

I just have two questions.

Question #1. Is he singing from his cheeks or throat?
Question #2. Is he wearing dress shoes or tap shoes to make that sound?

*shrugs shoulders*

Men, Lets Converse.

Boy I tell ya about these simple silly chicks like Kat Stacks. I promised myself I wouldn’t mention her name on my blog, but I just couldn’t resist.

No I’m not about to go in on ol’ girl (Kat Stacks), because even though I think she is a simple minded female, I’m not really mad at her for exposing the people she has exposed. All these guys want to talk so bad on her…”she’s a hoe”…”she’s a slut”…but guess what buddy, you f*cked her, so what does that make you? You can’t call the kettle black when your ass is the blackest of the blackest..I’m just saying. If I’m mad at anyone in this situation, it’s the guys.

Men, allow me to talk freely and openly to you for a minute. I just want you know that I love you all (some more than others), and actually appreciate you. I have a tendency to be a little hard you guys from time to time, but that is because you make thee most dumbest decisions. Damn, why do you ALWAYS end up messing with the silliest bitch in the world, and then get mad when she puts you out on front street, or tries to trick you out of your money? These females out here will try to get you for your last nickel, just so they can hold it up and shout to the world about how they broke you. And then they will talk about you because all you had was nickel to your name; they will call you a “broke n*gga” until they are blue in the face. But don’t be made at them, be made at yourself. Give yourself a nice black eye, because you allowed the shit to happen. Men, get it together, I mean damn, it’s not hard to identify these silly, simple, one track minded bitches. Allow me to help you out and give you some warning signs.


1.) If you go to a females house, and it is nasty, filthy, mc dirty, but when you met her she had a nice outfit on, hair and nails done..well I hate to say it..but she ain’t about shit. Any woman that can’t take care of home, but wants to be thee flyest thing walking has her priorities disarray.

2.) If you can smell her stank twat when she sits next to you…leave her alone, the chick has some kind of infestation and is ready to pass it on to you without any guilt.

3.) If you know at least 3 people that ran up in her and she never settled down with none of them..let that rat walk, because 9 times out of 10 she is a hoe, and is happy being a hoe.

4.) If you see her on at least 2 social networks with her ass and titties all exposed…don’t even bother sending her a message because she isn’t checking for you boo, she’s checking those pockets.

5.) If you always find that you’re one that pays for everything, or if she consistently has her hand out….keep it moving, before you find yourself broke.

6.) If you have a funny feeling in your gut about this girl….you’re probably right. Leave that chick where you met her…in the gutter.

Men, I’m giving you a heads up because I’m tiered of the once upon a time “goods men” feeling like they have to now dog every female out. Just remember, there is a difference between Women and Bitches, it’s up to you to pick the one that best suits your needs. Be smart.

DAMN! WHAT’S THE RUSH?

Sex....is it really that serious?


SIMPLE, SIMPLE, SIMPLE! Why is it that men think women are supposed to give them a automatic “coochie coupon”!? As if they automatically deserve the sh*t or something. I don’t understand this craziness.

When guys find out I’m not giving up the pu**y, it’s as if I just f*ckin’ sh*tted in their ear. WTF? They look at me in shock and disbelief.

I mean damn, is it possible to meet someone, hit it off, and later on down the line maybe have sex? Why is it that you want to f*ck so fast? Nigga are you dieing and your last wish is to get in some pu**y? I didn’t know “having sex” was on the list for the “Make a Wish Foundation” *rolls eyes*

I’m getting older and wiser. Before I thought it was okay to go ahead and have sex just for the hell of it, no strings attached. But now I want the strings, I want to be in a relationship with the person I am intimate with. Plus,in the world we live in today, it’s extremely not okay to go around having sex with every Tom, Dick, and Harry, especially unprotected (not saying that’s what I was doing). I will admit I have had my three slip ups when it comes down to having sex without a condom, and thank God I never caught anything in these moments of passion. Some of these guys have dirty d*cks, and don’t care who they spread their “nastiness” to, all they want is a warm place to insert their infested penis. And you nasty a** hoes are to blame also. A lot of you b*tches know you have a STD, and will still f*ck…nasty a**. SMFH!

I’m good, and that is why I don’t want to give up my “love box” to just anyone.

Number 1: If you want to be intimate with me, get to know me, show interest, make me see you’re a man of real trust.
Number 2: Be ready to take a trip with me to the clinic to have a HIV/AIDS, and STD’s test before we lay up with each other, even if it is protected. I know I have a clean bill of health, and I can prove it, but can you prove that you are clean?
Number 3: You have to pass the HIV/AIDS, and STD’s test with flying colors, point blank.
And number 4: Understand that you are with me and I am with you. I won’t let anyone dip into my goodies, and you won’t dip into another persons goodies.

If you ask me, sex is overrated in my eyes. Guys love to brag on their d*ck, as well as females like to brag on their pu**y. Everybody thinks they are bringing something new to the table, but sike…you’re not. You didn’t invent sex, you didn’t create a new art form that the world can’t wait to get a piece of……GET THE F*CK OUTTA HERE! I never had a piece of d*ck that made me sit there and be like “DAMN THAT WAS F*CKIN AWESOME”. And don’t say “because I haven’t found the right person to give it to me right”..(BTW, I’m tiered of hearing that bullsh*t whack a** line). In my opinion I think sex will always be “just whatever” until I meet someone I have mental connection with. When and if that day happens, lets just say that that will be the day I will be pouring down like the Niagara Falls. #imjustsaying

Ummm, Damn Erykah. (Window Seat Video)

Two points I need to make before I go any further. 1.) Erykah Badu is the shit! She undeniably is one of my all time favorite artist, hands down. 2.) UMMMM, Erykah is thick as hell. I know with me saying this, I either sound like a man or I’m someone who likes women, but I’m neither of the two. I can comment on her body and still be a 100% straight woman, and not have to say “NO HOMO”. Shit, I’m very comfortable with my sexuality.

If you watch the “Window Seat” video (below), you will see what I am talking about. It shocked the hell out of me to see she was so stacked. She never wore anything revealing to show her shape, so I guess their was no real way of knowing that she was so damn thick.

I love the video and the concept behind it. It’s time for everyone to step in to the “EVOLVING” state of mind. Free yourself from what the world says “WHAT IS”.

When Giving Up Is A Great Thing To Do

All my life I always heard “never give up”. These words have been planted in us by family members, friends, and teachers. Do you really feel in your heart these words are true? Well in my opinion I don’t think so, and I believe their is an exception to this rule.

Dreams and goals are two things you should never give up on. But I do believe they’re some things worth letting go, and that is failed relationships. Question. What is the point of trying to hold on to something that constantly slips out of your hands? It’s useless right?

Allow me to get personal without getting too personal.

Over the last couple of years I have found myself hooking up/dating the same people I dated when I was about 15 to 21 years old (pretty damn sad). With all of these social networking sites like Myspace, Facebook, and even Twitter, it is very easy for so called “old flings” to get back in contact with you, and try to rekindle what you two once had.

Well silly me, I always seem to fall in to the “let’s get back together” trap every time; thinking things will be different, but they’re not. The same childish time consuming games that were played in the past, are still presently played. The only difference is they are now being played as adults, which is wack, played out, and no longer cute. I can admit, things seem to be great in the beginning. We would talk about the past, laugh about the little silly things we used to do, chat about our future hopes of possibly being together again, blah blah blah, and bullsh*t. I have turned pretty callus to all of these false hopes, and I can officially say I’m done. Whether it was my fault or their fault as to why things things didn’t work out, it doesn’t matter because its a wrap.

From this day forward, I vow I will not hook up with another guy from my past, I’m over it. This is not to say that I will never speak to these people again. But it will be more on a “hey how are you, hope you have a great life” type conversation. No more relationship talk. Been there, done that; it’s time to give it up and move on.

My true belief as to why I always found myself with the same guys from my past, is due to fear of having to start from scratch with someone new. A lot us find comfort in sticking with what we know, which is a normal human feeling. I am currently learning that being comfortable with the familiar is not always a good thing, because you are setting restrictions for yourself; restrictions on learning and growing. I’m ready to see who else is out there, and not box myself in with the same guys. Regardless of what people think, I am still young, and I have ample opportunity to meet someone that can and will stimulate all of my senses mentally, physically, and emotionally.

With all of this being said, I am saying so long to all the guys that have come, gone, and came back into my life; I’m officially giving up. It’s been real, a little to real. Here’s a kiss for the road. Muah!

Damn, I Knew This Would Happen!

I was so excited to start my blog, and I’m still very excited, I just slacked off on updating it (booooo to me). So many things I want to discuss and put out on the table, but my time is so limited now. I was recently presented with the opportunity to blog for a hip hop website (www.onestophiphopstopshop.com….check it out), as well as I am continuing with my earring designing, on top of regular everyday life things. But I promise my new found passion for blogging will not fall by the waist side, I will continue to do this as long as I have a passion for it. Thanks to all of the people who read my craziness. Get ready to feast your eyes upon more of my random thoughts.